Do you feel pressure when you hear that you should be spending Quality Time with your kids? We often think that Quality Time means a day long adventure complete with a picnic lunch. Those kind of quality time days can be fun and nice, but aren’t always realistic.
Your kids do need Quality Time from you every day. But are you ready for the good news? Quality Time is defined by Triple P as small doses of quality interactions that are 30 seconds to 2 minutes long. That’s it!
Let me explain. When your child approaches you with a question or something to show you, pause what you are doing. Get on her level. Look her in the eye. Engage with her about whatever she is showing you or asking you. Give a compliment. Ask a follow up question.
I need to remind myself of this strategy very often. Let’s face it – life is busy. I feel like I am constantly trying to get the next thing done. If left to my own devices, I find myself half-listening to my child because I am finishing an email, or checking my phone, or folding laundry. When I remember to spend these small doses of Quality Time with my child, we are both boosted by the connection.
Try it. Watch your child’s face light up because they have all of you in that moment.
Interested in Triple P? Email me at email@example.com
Today I presented “Mindfulness for Educators” to the North Reading School District’s paraprofessionals. Key takeaways:
- Learning mindfulness is not an intellectual exercise.
- Stay curious when encountering annoying behaviors.
- Mindfulness in conversation is not necessarily easy, but can improve any interaction.
Affection is so important to show our kids. But, what kind of affection does your child prefer? Some kids would much rather have their hair tousled and a high five than a close, tight hug. Other kids love close, tight hugs – but not in public. Read your child’s verbal and nonverbal cues as to what they prefer and make a point of providing that every day. Directly asking your child what they prefer and when is also a good lesson in teaching consent and the power of his/her voice. Note: be careful that you don’t use affection as a way to distract from misbehavior. This will become an accidental reward. (More to follow on accidental rewards!)
Want more information on Triple P and how it works? Email: firstname.lastname@example.org
Our breath is always there – ready to bring us to the present moment. Take three deep breaths and see if you can notice where you notice your breath the most. Your belly? Chest? Throat? Nostrils? Let that be your anchor spot – to return to again and again – anytime you need it.
I’ve been absent from Social Media for the last week, because I’ve been busy getting ready to launch something new. (Don’t worry – Village Parenting is still going strong!) While it is separate from my work in Village Parenting, it is based on the same ideals: Connecting through authenticity.
I have been a member of Speaker Sisterhood for several months and am now very excited to be launching my own club in Reading, MA!
Here’s what to expect: A group of women seeking to boost public speaking skills in a safe and fun environment. Members end up discovering more about themselves through storytelling and public speaking, all while connecting with other supportive women.
Here are the details:
Launch Party/First Meeting: October 22nd
Where: Tin Bucket in Reading – 12 Woburn St.
We will meet every other Monday. Rsvp to email@example.com
**First Meeting is Free!**
Go to http://www.speakersisterhood.com for more information about the Speaker Sisterhood organization
P.S. This does not mean that our expectations will be some kind of magic bullet. However, if our kids clearly know what we expect, this will help them to reach their potential!
P.P.S I highly recommend centering our expectations on behavior and effort, not particular grades!
More fun facts about instructions this week! Did you know that sometimes our kids aren’t listening to us because our instructions are too few, too many, or too vague? Could this very common dynamic be happening in your family?
Being engaged in our child’s education matters!
Are your kids not following directions? Here are the first two things to think about:
Being in the same room and establishing eye contact first can be a game changer!